BDSM basics and how to start the conversation

If you like some kink in the bedroom then BDSM is the right thing for you. Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism are not just a four letter word. If you have watched 50 shades of gray before you have an idea of what goes on in the BDSM world. The main idea of BDSM is to push your sexual boundaries and explore new ideas with your partner.  There are countless sexual activities in BDSM the main ones being role play, domination, submission and bondage. If you have been thinking about BDSM and ideas like handcuffs, whips, and chains you need to have and open conversation with your sexual partner.  This way, you can establish on whether you are both into the idea or if they do not feel they can do it. Ask your partner on any information they may have and whether they are interested instead of just assuming.

If you are both for the idea, ensure you make a list of what you guys are interested in. The ideas will be different depending what you guys are into. Gay BDSM is not that different than the basic BDSM, the ideas can totally be the same. BDSM is a rough game and may go to an unexpected extent while you or your partner are role playing; ensure you always have a safe word. This will prevent any kind of serious injury to both of you during play.  If the safe word does not work, come up with a backup that will keep your partner alert.  During the play, your partner has the right to take away the consent. This means that if they initially agreed to something then changed their mind you should not go ahead with the act. Meet your partner’s emotional needs before and after play. Maintaining communication is the key to having great and exiting BDSM life with your partner.